wow, Elana,, and i thought my family traits were strong~! it is possible to change the way we think, and that can change the way we feel, but we have to want that change more than anything in the world~! more than we want to remain the same, more than we want to believe in our old world, more than we want to be our parents' child. i am hoping you can find the way to change, to a new View of the World, to a new way of thinking and feeling in whatever circumstance you find yourself. i am hoping that you find Peace. Gus