"I have been told that I don't trust people. but I do trust people; I trust them to be what they show themselves to be, every day, day in and day out."

This is kind of what I was thinking about my T. I don't trust words - words are crap. Anyone can SAY anything. I trust actions. What people do. I have learned to trust my T by what she has done. It has been very slow. But we have built - well, are still building, trust everytime we interact. Everytime she does what she says she will do. Every time she doesn't hurt me intentionally - I add intentionally there because there have been time when she has "hurt" me with her words but it has not been intentional like my abusers. I have shared little things, she has not run off screaming into the night. She has shown that she can be trusted with little things, so I open up a little more. There are still things I haven't told her, because we are still working on that trust. But to me, a person's actions over time will show if they are safe. It's a really, really, good question.