this may not pertain to you or anyone else, I don't know..
just thought I'd share my experience....

I was traumatized mostly by those that should have loved and protected me, I was neglected and abused. and in response, I didn't/don't truly trust anyone fully... no one is really "safe".
wrong or right-- that's how I am.

anyway-- I think I'm learning that what's more important is NOT determining if someone is really safe(I think the armour I possess is fairly permanent- from toddler-hood) ....
BUT....
how I will handle each situation-- how strong am I to cope with a hurt by someone else.... (I'm still not too strong, don't even have a IRL friend yet.... but I'm working on things)
I think what this frame of mind does for me is give me the "POWER" and not leave it up to the other person to have the power.

does that make sense??
I don't know if it's the best way to be-- I've not talked to the T. about this, but I think it's the way I can best exist at this time.

just thought I'd give my experience........

peace to all,
fins