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Originally Posted by Laurie1041
It is not uncommon for adult children to go through periods of not communicating with their parents. I understand your hurt - sometimes I don't hear from my daughter for what seems like months on end.
I would suggest that you resist the urge to tell your son about your suspicions. This will only cause major damage to your relationship with your son and your daughter-in-law. I think it might prove very embarrassing once your grandchild is born! Try to make a good relationship with your daughter-in-law - she is the ticket to any future grandchildren. A good relationship with your daughter-in-law is just healthier for all involved. Why waste valuable time being suspicious? Keep the lines of communication open and try to see that your daughter-in-law wants your approval. Why else would she send you the ultra-sound picture?  Laurie
In the meantime, I think you can find great happiness if you continue doing those things that give you great pleasure - going out with friends, perhaps exercising, or finding a new hobby that you really enjoy. Life can be really great when we are no longer burdened caring for children!
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I'm just starting to deal with adult kids, so I appreciate your post--thinking I might be in your shoes one day. #1 son is in college ROTC, planning a career in the military. #2 will be 18 in 2 months. These other folks certainly are giving good advice, I think. I've had some problems with my mother-in-law......And I do think I'm a decent wife and person in general. I have sometimes had to take the position of--"Okay, I'm your WIFE, and you need to listen to me more than to your mother!" So, your son would be caught in the middle, and you would be perceived as the stereotypical mother-in-law "enemy" if you try to raise your suspicions. It's good to try to keep the door open and take comfort (as I'm trying to) that we did the best job we could in raising them--and just be happy when they do contact us......