thank you! I know i need to tell them that i'm gonna have to go to my mums for a while but its jus findin the right moment and havin the courage to do it. Will try 2moro after i've been to my mentalising group and physio. I'll see what mood she's in tho. She's not well at min either, she suffers real bad wiv IBS so i feel guilty bout that too the more i think about it all the more distressed i get!