Hi midnight soul- I'm sorry that you are feeling so bad. I think Laurie's advise is good. I am going to check out the workbook that she recommended. Until I found this website and finally called my local mental health clinic for help, my husband was the only person I had to talk to, so I know how you feel. This is just my opinion but I think that sometimes when men appear to be uncaring or unsympathetic, the real reason is that men like to fix things .And when they don't have the answers that we need ,they feel helpless . Sounds simplistic but I think its true. I am here for you if need to talk. I am sending a big hug your way.