Hi Phoenix,

I totally understand what you mean about feeling like its rude not to respond. I do that too. It doesn't mean you want to hear those things. I think it may just be a regular human tendency to continue a conversation even when it's bothering you. For me, I feel awkward initiating the end of conversations, so I tend not to do it. I think a lot of people go along in conversations they dont like, because they feel awkward/rude ending it, and maybe also on the hope and curiosity that the conversation might get better. I think this is pretty normal/common.

So try not to get upset with yourself, because I think replying in that situation is understandable - I would have done that too. I do think it would also be very understandable if you got messages like that in the future and you chose to not reply to them. I think you maintaining your well being (meaning you not feeling bothered) is definitely more important than him getting a reply. Either way, I dont think youre sick or that you want to hear those things. I think people just have this tendency to reply in those situations, unfortunately. But you may decide to chose to not reply (you could just say "hey, I'm gonna get something to eat (or some other thing to do), byebye." - it doesnt come off as rude and you firmly end the conversation by not replying from that point on). Sometimes it may take some boldness to interrupt and say that you need to go, and to actually leave without letting the conversation drag on, but I think it would be worth it, and you can do it. =)

Also, Phoenix, if you're uncomfortable on facebook now, maybe making a new account would help? Or maybe you can set it so that only certain people can message you.

About the website link, I think it's a similar sort of human tendency to wonder what the link/website is. Again, I probably wouldve clicked it too. That doesn't make you an idiot, and I dont think youre too trusting either. It may just be a matter of using some caution with links from people you dont know. Just a little caution - not to be so cautious that youre fearful. Just a little skepticism. I think many things in life are about trying to find a balance, and this can be really hard and challenging, but it is possible.
Just remember (and try to accept) that anyone on the path to trying to find that balance is going to make mistakes and probably go to extremes sometimes before they figure out how to balance relatively in the middle. And that is totally ok.

I hope this helps, and if anything I said bothers you, I'm sorry and please know I'm only coming from the caring point of view of helping, I mean no harm.
I hope the best for you!

With Care and heart,
~Breath =)