Lately this is what is glaring right in front of my eyes in the world around me. Of course I never use to see it, and even engaged in it with others and didn't know anything was wrong with this. But as I go on in my own journey and reclaim my own power back I see it, I can see where I engaged in it and tried to continue that pattern of being with T and at first found it uncomfortable when T didnt "play" the role that those engaged in the drama triangle play.

Yesterday morning at work, I arrived early and man is there a lot of "victim dramas" in the work place, where actually where ever a group of people meet perhaps, and this guy sat oppersite me, I'll just call him mick, and he asked how I was? I said good thanks, and then he asked me some more stuff, I replied, wishing I must admit that we could just stop at the "hello" as it was early and I wasn't really into too much conversation about nothing, and then he said he was switching depts, Oh I said, how come, he said, to much homophobia on my present dept, Oh I said, really, by now I felt a bit enraged for him and asked him had he put a complaint into anyone? Then he said, yeah I told the previous manager but he just sort of told everyone off and that was it. Now I'm still taking this serious and said, well that doesnt sound enough you can take it further, then he replied, yeah I guess and didnt seem to want to hear any serious talk on the subject he wanted me to get involved with the personalities of the others on his dept, to single them out and talk about them, but I didnt allow myself to get pulled into this angle of the chat, and then he said, they call me lazy too, I said well are you? he said well if the others are standing around gossiping I'm gonna too, oh dear, I begun to loose the will to continue with this and felt no matter what I'd said to him about the right and wrong way to deal with racism/homophobia or any of the isms he wasn't going to be listening, he was trapped in his "victim" role asn was looking for me to rescue him, which if he'd listened he';d have heard when I said about taking the complaint higher.

Later that morning I walked past his dept and saw him jesting around with the so called "homophobics" which they proberbly are too but I saw mick wasn't ready to drop his "victimhood", he was still getting something from it, I did mention rather crossly to him toward the end of our very early morning chat that if not for himself then he needs to do something for others that might come along and face discrimination? that too was met with shy looking eyes and a "yeah guess so", but I knew that meant little to him. I cringe now when I think some of the ways I'd acted when I first got to T.