ECHOES >>> So, you were expected to be able to read your mother's mind..
what got me into trouble was that I didn't - I relied on what she had told me. And look where it got me.

ECHOES >>> Your T is bringing you the gift of bringing herself back to you, but you could ask in fun "Whadya bring me?"
I might, if I think I can get through the rejection of hearing "I didn't bring you anything". Right now it's OK, but "in the moment" who knows.

So far the best I can do would be to counter with, "well I brought you something T." and hand her a 2nd copy of Maggie Scarf's "Intimate Worlds", about family dynamics on a dysfunctional scale 1-5. I think she would find it interesting (I am learning a lot).
It's 465 pages
maybe that will keep her home for a while