After my husband adopting my kids when they were pretty young, 3 and 8, the son who is youngest, is hanging out with birth father who is a no good liar, etc. He cancelled the kids life and health insurance, took money out of one child's savings, lied, stole cargo from a company he workd for, etc. It really hurts my husband and me both. You are not alone and I am thinking about you. Holiday time is coming up and that makes these things harder. Hang in there. That woman has no right to tell you that sort of thing.