Hi midnight_soul: I just want to tell you you're not alone. I've been trying to work through things with my husband and it hasn't been easy. Particularly when I got fired from my last job, right after I was diagnosed and disclosed it to my boss. He was terrible to me, not just angry but downright mean in the things he said. We are now taking baby steps to heal our relationship.

Here's some things I learned in the process: Men in general need to fix things. If they aren't bipolar themselves, it's difficult for them to understand it, much less "fix" it. Because it scares them, their coping mechanism can often be avoidance (my husband found reruns of Entourage more important than interacting with me). It can also be anger. The thing to remember is that the anger is directed at you, but it's not about you.

OK, so what can we do about it? I am learning to give him space; to let him decide when he's ready to take an active and positive role in my treatment. It is what it is, and it just makes it that much worse when I try to force him into a role he's not ready for. Trust me, I bent a lot of ears on this forum with my frustration.

Next, I have turned to other sources for support - my sister, daughter, and this group right here. I still love my husband and I know he still loves me, and I think he's grateful that I decided not to put the burden on him of being my sole support in this.

Hope that helps, and hope you and your husband find peace together.