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Old Nov 02, 2005, 12:14 PM
keith_moon67 keith_moon67 is offline
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Hi everyone thanks for the replies.

On the subject of relationships something happened...I met a girl on Haloween night and stayed at her's, I slept in her bed but nothing happened. That night she had asked if I wanted to meet up with her again and I agreed, and we said we'd do something together sometime.

The next morning though we were talking about families for some reason, she said her brother had ADHD and I talked about my younger sister, who I suspect has a bit of OCD. I felt like I was making my sister out to be the most 'mentally troubled' or whatever in the family, so I said that there had been stuff with me as well. She asked what I meant and I said I had been depressed, I didn't go into great detail but told her I had seen a therapist and was on pills.

Anyway we went back to sleep for a while and before I left I asked if she still wanted to meet again, she said 'I don't think it would be a good idea'.

I was shocked and asked if it was because of what I said before, and she said 'Yes, I'm sorry but people are attracted to happy people'. She said that was 'too much information' after just meeting her and that she had had a friend who was a depressive and it was draining to be around, I don't know if that's true.

I mean, I know it was quite a serious thing to blurt out but at the time I really didn't think it would matter that much. I was trying to be mature about it, just admit I had had a problem but evidently it was very offputting.

She wouldn't say much, just that I shouldn't really have told her and that after a few dates it might have been ok to say. She was saying, I'm a bad person, but at least I was honest and didn't give you my number and just ignore your calls'. That's something I suppose.

I just feel bad for having said it. Everying just fell apart because I had been depressed, it was that big a deal to her. The irony is that I talk to NO-ONE, and then when I am open stuff like this happens. She isn't a good friend who I can just tell stuff like that to I know, but I didn't quite expect that reaction.

Looking back now I do see where she is coming from, if a girl had told me she had been suicidal or something I'm not sure how I would feel about a relationship to be honest.

I don't really know what to think. WOW, a learning experience I suppose. I won't do that again.