Suzzie, I think being "forgotten" is a big thing in the beginning, we or I use to look for signs all the time that this woman (my T), wasn't going to mistreat me the way I'd come to know, and even if she did forget little things, though never the big things I might add, it feel as if someone was attempting to dislodge my defence wall inside, I wasn't sure what the results would be, would she begin to change because I was sure the first sign was here, she'd forgotten something I'd said. I too never told her about this in the beginning and begun to watch for other signs and no others signs ever happened and then the begining to see someone as whole begun to happen, you know someone that can forget but still really be genuine, and I could withstand her forgetting, which is pretty random I must admit, but one does grow a new inner strenght and if these things didnt happen, ie her forgetting, we'd never get to strenght that internal trust muscle, BUT of course, only you will know in time if this person is genuine and can be trusted, thats sometimes like a leap in the dark, but one that has to be taken.