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Originally Posted by Rohag
Hi, LittleForgetMeNot!
The mother you are describing is a toxic individual, possibly with a diagnosable disorder, whose words and actions are undermining not only your personal peace of mind but also your education. It may be best to formally document your experiences and officially complain to authorities.
I realize you (and your brother) are young, but that makes decisive action now all the more important.
Perhaps you have a trusted teacher or administrator or counselor at school to whom you could turn for help. You have a "real world" writing/research project and need assistance. You could even start with your above post, pare it down to just the facts -- including that the emotional turmoil caused by your mother is harming your ability to take advantage of education, print it and present it to somebody.
As strong as you are, you most likely do need to reach out for help to get to a safer, better place.
Document, document, document.
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I do reach out, I've been reaching out more than usual, but most people tell me I should ignore her until she stops. I have completely cut off all contact with her a few months ago, deleting her off facebook, msn, refusing to speak with her on the phone, and if we're stuck at the same party (which has only happened once) I'll pretend she's not even there. This is what she means by she wants me to forgive her.
She does have a disorder, a mental one, and I'm not sure how to explain it but she's not a very bright person and she has trouble understanding A LOT of things. She can barely spell, horrible grammar, I can't explain how she is, you would need to interact with her to understand, I guess. But it is known she has an issue, my Dad thinks she has the same as my brother who was diagnosed with MID and a possible autism, though we also think there has to be something more to it cause he's.. different, but inexplainable. She has the inability to understand ANYTHING that does not involve herself, and she's a chronic liar.. Also according to her (though I don't know how truthful this is) she was raped when she was little, which would explain her numerous affairs regardless of any boyfriend she's with, she's always, always cheating. Plus she's an alcoholic, and though I know the details have been kept from me, she's been into drugs before when I was around 11-12.
I'm in a big sister, little sister, program that CAS (children's aid service) put me into to have her be a positive female model in my life. She works with girls my age at group homes who have school issues, depression issues, as well as girls 18+ who don't have the resources to help themselves. She is in contact with counselors at her work and she has before offered to get me in touch with them if I needed. She was also in touch with my old cas worker who closed the case so many months ago, on account that in an alternative program i was going to school and they all thought everything was fine, and my dad did too (they never knew i was depressed or the real damage of my mom). Could she, that "big sister" be the one to go to??
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