ECHOES >> I'd be prepared for a T response like "You wish I had brought you something? Do you want to say more about that?" or "What do you wish I had brought you?"

before she went away, I left her a message. I said, I won't ask you to bring me a rosary, that's what I always ask of people I know who go to Europe" and then I said, you could do something for me, call and leave me a message.
So no of course I don't expect her to have brought me that, and no I don't expect her to have brought me anything; I just don't want to HEAR her say, no, I didn't (in other words, SAWE you never entered my mind for the past month).
Bringing herself is on point, all right. Soon it will be 3 days since she came back and I asked for a second message, and not a word. It has occurred to me that after a month's break, she is going to say, I think I need to refer you SAWE.

ECHOES >> Is it a good book?
Maggie Scarf's book "Intimate Worlds" - I feel like I am learning a lot from it.

** In the dysfunctional family, it is the parent who demands unconditional love from the developing child, and this is damaging on several levels...

** the idea of a parent projecting her destructive needs onto her children (that was a light bulb for me, we four older ones reminded her of her abusive husband, but the two younger ones didn't; her methods of discipline for each group, her entire program for each, were SO different and I never realized why.)

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