Hi, acidwife, welcome to PsychCentral (PC)!

My husband isn't depressed but I'm sure you will find many people here in similar shoes to you; what I thought of reading your post was that maybe you could find some support treatment (someone to whom you can voice your emotions and opinions and better learn how and when to express yourself to your husband) where you are and be an "example" so maybe your husband would enter treatment sooner? If he sees you in treatment and you talk positively about it, maybe that will get him working on his own problems sooner?