Update:

Yesterday I got the nicest call from my daughter. I was upbeat and casual....let her fill me in on what she and the kids have been doing. She called back in the evening so I could talk to the kids. We are making plans to get together over the weekend.

So, did I create another catastrophe in my head or is it that she is getting a handle on things and felt better about calling. Either way...what ever headway she is making she did on her own and I happy for her....and let her know.