"yesterday's history, tomorrow's a mystery. we only have today."
you have what i call emotional triggers that get going when certain present day stuff happens that emote the feelings of previous bad feelings. it takes practice but you can learn to not react to those old feelings-bad tapes i call them. try to look at the present day situation objectively and respond once you've got the old tape suppressed. you can also learn to re-write bad tapes to good tapes but i used therapy to undo some of mine. it was easier with the help of a T., justme. hope this helps. 
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Do not let your fire go out, spark by irreplaceable spark, in the hopeless swamps of the approximate, the not-quite, the not-yet, the not-at-all. Do not let the hero in your soul perish, in lonely frustration for the life you deserved, but have never been able to reach. Check your road and the nature of your battle.
The world you desired can be won. It exists, it is real, it is possible, it is yours..~Ayn Rand
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