just came on this...
I don't think the abuser really knows the depth of damage done. Perhaps they think that "I'm sorry for any pain and hurt I've caused you" covers it. Not so...it'll never cover it...not even close...nothing is ever the same again...everything changes...everything about life is different...I have said I've forgiven my abusers, but that doesn't mean the pain and the hurt and the fear have gone away.
Crystal