Petunia, you made me chuckle out loud. Sweet thing you.

Dottie, I agree, when they were younger I had a chore list of things that had to happen for each day. It worked, they did it. It's this adult son of mine and his girlfriend who have a sense of entitlment, and lack of respect that gets to me. The issue I have here as I explore this further is that I never had anyone do anything for me when I was a child or young adult. I know that feeling of being totally overwhelmed and wanting someone to just take care of me. That is what is making this so hard. Son does not see the things hubby and I see. His glasses are a different color. He believes he is carrying his own. I don't want to get resentful here. That will show through like nuts. And, T says I should not even have to ask anyone to do anything,, they should see and do. It is a journey I need to figure out. When I have seen my friend's kids acting in this way I have been horrified. Now the shoe is on the other foot. This mama is in a learning phase.

Allthegirls, thank you. I do need extra hands and someone to take care of me.

A side note. as a culture we are always doing something. We work and come home and work and sleep and go back to work. The normal household things get to be overwhelming. Driving the half hour home totally depleted and looking forward to making a meal, doing some laundry, cleaning up etc is exhausting.

Thanks all for witnessing my journey here. Things will change. I have to as Dottie said, get a spine. I let it build. Why can't I just casually say to girlfriend, hey, could you please do this today? Or how about, I thought we'd have soup and salad for dinner, wanna make the soup or the salad? Because I am afraid. I am afraid she will be upset, not like me etc. What a mess I am making.

Okay, on a happy note my bunnies are fed and watered and tucked in tight for the night. They make me smile.

Thanks again everyone.