Hey ya Wisewoman...I didnt post in here before cause I do not have kids...BUT I had a mom and saw this gig on the not going to work and tattoos and had to kinda lol thinking back to my own youth..I was in my 20's a lot like your son and his girlfriend...I was a lazy person who was into me, my clothes, music and dudes....mom NEVER allowed a guy to move in .....but I can tell you I DID come home to find all and I mean all my things in a BIG pile in the middle of the bedroom....the closet was bare....the drawers....it looked like a mountain...no food to eat either..Took a few times for me...dishes dumped on floor in bedroom..mine I used.....I learned My MOM could be like the Tazmanian Devil....hahaha but I learned a LOT by mom