Yes Wisewoman I am sorry I was referring to your adopted girl. I would do notes or go to talk with her even if she will not speak to you..I find this all very sad because I know a dude that his kids wanted half the insurance money when his wife their mom died ...they felt entitled because they helped take care of mom..jeeze.....he didnt fight it out with them and they all have not spoken in 12 years....I would have pestered the hell outta them ..you know fight to get it fixed and shower them with love but not the cash they wanted....Dont let time go wiothout notes and cards and all...even calls unanswered may open the door in time

I would tell the girlfriend its out if no doc appt set..but thats me