((((((((((Furry Paws))))))))) I think in my case I'm attracted to rejection. I am trying subconsciously to overcome rejections that hurt me long ago, by people or in situations where I couldn't possibly win. So I have a tendency to go looking for relationships that don't really have a good chance of succeeding in the first place. It's a hard vicious circle to break out of, but I'm working on being aware of what I'm doing in being drawn to these relationships and being extra safe with myself with people, and my own expectations in that relationship. And I feel as long as I haven't given up on myself, (and I haven't) that I'm making progress. I know you can too. Just start by being your own best friend, and letting go of whoever made you feel that way.