**Triggers for sexual addiction and purging**

Rhiannon knows a woman who is a sexual addict and it truly is an addiction. She is looking for some form of gratification, just as a gambler who plays a gamling machine is looking for the one big win that never comes but the addiction to that thought, to that hope keeps them playing because it could always be the next press which gives them their prize

In this womans situation she is looking for attention and love she has a need to be desired and wanted it is not the orgasm that she is chasing but the mini-love apex that she is constantly reaching for. With her addiction she attends places where there are women taking their clothes off because that arouses her and there are men readily availabl to fullfil her need her addiction to be desired and wanted

Her addiction stemmed from being rejected by her husband yet seeing him show interest in other women and even though that interest was not sexual, to her it was still a rejection. Being a young attractive woman she had to continue to show that she was young and beautiful, desirable, wanted. This also led her to become bulemic in the beginning it was just gorging on sweet things which gave her a similar reaction to desire, the sweets chocolates cakes etc gave her a from of sexual satisfaction but she was concerned about what they would do to her figure so she began to binge eat many sweet things and then purge. The fear of losing her figure became obsessive so she binged and purged regularly

What ever labels are attatched to peoples behaviours not everyone will be contented with but that is just how the world is built one mans house is another mans hovel and one childs joy is anothers contempt. When you study the behaviour which is classified as an addiction or an obsession, what ever is in your mind is how you will relate to it and there is no changing that

You seem concerned regarding a mans attitude to sexuality and pornography, and how he applies that to himself with no regard for his wife/partner or lover. And that it bothers you because you feel that calling that an addiction rather than a behaviour is negating his responsibility to his relationships. I shall just add here in closing that a sex addict can crave sex upto any number of times a day and night. The woman in the case above craved anywhere upto 14 or 15 times a day and night, that is not just a behaviour or obsession; obsession is usually focused on one thing or person and a sequence of things to ensure a paticular outcome like personal safety

Morgana