Candy, I don't know what to say. It's the pits, I know. Makes you wonder why she even let you know where they are. Maybe she's just worried about how she looks to him. Nevertheless, she is his "acting" mother and you have to follow her rules. I have the same crap with my grandkids. They're pawns for their parents to play games with.

You have every right to feel angry! Does she want him to communicate with you and get to know you or NOT?! She just may hang herself by being so strict. She sounds a bit insecure, having you email letters to him THROUGH her. Sounds like she may not trust him to tell her what you said. Strange that she would find you then. I don't know... weird...

Hang tight, Candy. It may take some time, but your turn will come.