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Old Oct 03, 2010, 06:53 AM
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Originally Posted by Lillyleaf View Post
Does anyone else have the problem of just swittching everytime you run into a moment that is hard? wether Emothionaly or anything we just switch and I know that it is not ok to do this anymore but I dont know how to stop. I switch when I am scared or angry or anything... I want to be ablet to stay outt but I dissoceate... is it ok for me to do this?

Thanks
I cant tell you if its ok for you to do this. only you and your treatment people can decide what is best for you. example what if your treatment people are telling you to use meditation, grounding breathing, or what ever and I go and tell you sure its ok to do this. my telling you that is going to go against your treatment and do more harm to you then good.

what I can say is that different treatment people work different ways. some dont want their clients to just let their self dissociate. I once had a therapist who told me - what the H e double hockey sticks was I paying for therapy to learn things like grounding and breathing, if I wasnt going to use it. then she told me to leave and come back when I was ready to stop wasting her time and mine.

And you know what. In my case she was right, when I thought about it why was I paying a hundred bucks an hour for her to teach me about dissociation and how to stay grounded if I wasnt going to use what I was taught. it would be a waste of my money and her time and my time. So I went back to work using all the grounding and breathing exercises when ever I got triggered by something so that I would not dissociate. It was hard work and took quite some time for me to master those tools and actually remain aware, but I am that much more healthy because of it.

follow what ever your treatment people are telling you to do. They are the ones that are treating your mental problems.
Thanks for this!
Lillyleaf