midnight_soul...my heart cries for you. I know how awful it feels to be left out, treated rudely and taken advantage of..sounds like your husband is a great guy, it's good you have him to lean on. It's true, his daughter was insensitive; but if you've had a pretty good relationship up to this point, there's no reason you can't move past it and be a grandma. Do what you need to do now to get better, lean on your husband, lean on us, and I'd wager that everything else will get better, too. Hugs and peaceful vibes coming your way.