i'm about to be 30, and while i have dated in the past (and not in like 5 or 6 years), I've never had sex. I feel abnormal for still being a virgin, and not even attempting to date in a very long time. I had a semi-serious boyfriend in HS, and dated (very briefly) a few other guys here and there.

What is the fear for you? Are you afraid of being close to someone emotionally? physically? For me, the physicality of sex scares me. Why, I don't know, especially since I have not had any abuse. I know I'm capable of emotional relationships because I have some really great friends.

I think there are more people out there that have very limited/no dating experience than you think--but it is a tough subject because the world is made out for couples. I for one do NOT bring it up with anyone. To my work friends, we keep it superficial and light; same with my family. I just don't ever talk about dating and then people don't generally ask. But, as the years have progressed, it does feel harder. Friends get married, friends have babies...it changes their life and consequently mine.

I have no advice, but wanted to let you know you are not alone!