Sounds reasonable to me but please note this explaination makes the posts in psychology into nothing but lies because you were over the crush on your therapist when your professor made you forget about her and you were in your words. "no longer having feelings on my ex-therapist. now".
You could have explained that you were no longer in love with your therapist and that the crush had ended in august-september when you met your professor. But instead you chose to lie and make us all think you needed help with this over and done with crush on your therapist.
for future reference just because this is on line and we cant see each other does not mean it's ok to lie for in the end the lie gets discovered and then the person who told the lie has to work real hard to gain everyones trust back.
Suggestion - you might try placing an appology and a post about the true situation in your psychology thread so anyone in the future who reads and wants to respond to that thread will know the truth.
Now as to this obsession on your instructor you already know she is unavailable, you already know she is not going to be returning the same feelings for you So you already know what you need to do - turn your attention elsewhere - someone your age and so on. Its ok to fantasize, heck I wish someone would send patrick swayze my way or even the neighbor down a couple buildings but its not going to happen so theres no reason for me to get all worked up, hot and bothered and upset and let that upset my whole life especially since they never once showed romantic interest in me.
you're in college spend some time in the college lounges, talk with other students about your classes or just sit and listen to others talking and sooner or later someone is going to ask you to join in the conversation then befor you know it you're in study groups and forming new friendships. I met so many people just sitting in the lounges watching tv and eating snacks, meals, doing homework, I even took a deck of cards and started playing solitary and the next thing I know we had a daily card game going. Soon enough you will have that special someone that you are craving.
Another thing you might want to look at is - this is the second time you have been attracted to a woman, your profile says you are female. Maybe your body is trying to make up its mind on which you prefer for romantic interests - men, women or both. Theres nothing wrong with any one of those choices but sometimes people struggle through that process. Your therapist can help you with that and there are many gender oriented support group (your therapist will also know about those)
and in the future it would be best if you were honest with us here. There is no reason to mislead anyone here. Real life does enough of that to us and I for one have very little tolorance for such things.
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