Over issues where others get a little mad and get over it, I get really mad and feel hurt and respond by verbally abusing those close to me, especially my husband. One therapist told me to set a later, calmer time to discuss a problem when it arises, but I found I often can't get myself to wait before yelling and that when I have to wait for some reason (i.e., I get angry when my husband is not home), waiting gives me more time to think about the problem and results in me getting more upset, to the point where I become self abusive. Trying to take my mind off problems doesn't work--I need a way to deal with problems as they happen and to see problems in perspective. Suggestions?
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