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Originally Posted by purple_fins
Hope this is OK to write. 
I've been wondering this again and thought I'd write it out....
Being that this culture is one that very much wishes to absolve most responsibilty for ones own actions.....
how is it that-- checking and rechecking a lock or turning on and off a light switch or touching a door 5 times before one leaves the house is a "compulsion"
but yet--
one using porn for hours or having mulitiple sex to alleviate ones anxiety is an "addiction"???
Isn't "behavior" in the category of compulsions or obsessions???
isn't sex a behavior-- resulting from a desire to lessen anxiety or depression or whatever the person is mentally experiencing?? why isn't it called a "sexual obssession" or "compulsion"?? (when OCD sufferers fulfill their obssession or complusion they get a release from their anxiety or depression... is that NOT the same??)
does the "pop culture" not like the sound of that as much as the word "addiction"? why would that be?...
I've heard of a study done on drug addicts that were threatened with being hit with a bat if they shot up and yet they shot up because the depletion of the chemical in their body was so overwhelming that they would risk getting hit with a bat just to stave off the shakes/jitters and such from the addiction...... but those that indulged in sex too much were able to NOT have sex as they didn't want to get hit with a bat.....
so.....
isn't sex then a behavior and NOT an addiction??
isn't it more the way the mind "thinks" instead of the body truly being dependant on some outside chemical? Seems overeating is MUCH closer to an addiction, as one IS getting something put into the body from outside -- something that the WHOLE body craves and uses just like a drug or alcohol...
how can the way a mind think be considered an addiction??
isn't it a compulsion or obssession or a case of narcissistic personality instead??.... 
or why not it being considered a "disorder" then-- like overeating or undereating is??? they are eating disorders.... or what about cutting-- I've never heard of professionals referring to that as being an addiction..... why not?? huh?
why is it a sexual "addiction"?
been wondering this .......
fins |
my opinion? because its usually men with this problem and they would rather hide it than admit its something out of control.or maybe they think they have it under control, its society that puts the labels on things, when you say 'sex addict' first thing comes to mind is a rapists or child molester and since most porn loving men dont attack anybody, its kind of 'ok'...
is it an addiction, in my opinion, yes.
the drugs/booze thing is looked at like 'you did it to yourself' thing, a mental problem is a 'your born with it' thing, and a sexual addiction is blamed on media/internet. but usually the one that pays for this addiction is the wife that marries him.