(((((((((((((((sarah)))))))))))))))))) thank you so much. for over a year now, i've been working the no contact. we had/have to speak because of this little man that i'm raising. it keeps it pretty hopeless to avoid the "nuking". However, i've greatly reduced contact and not spoken for long periods. that was her main complaint..."you don't even speak to me, and haven't for years, usless it's about the baby". well, ok, you're right. i've gone months at a time and had a complete break until we had to work together for this little life. in that sense, i feel kinda stuck. it's another reason that i'm extremely excited to see his mama and daddy stepping back up to the plate a bit now that he's older and they're in a better place. i'm hoping to sever (again) all contact with her.

I'm so sorry that you relate so well. it can be so hard. i keep saying that i'm past it and she doesn't have the power to hurt me anymore...i've come so far there. however, i was very open after doing three days of "inside work". i was in a light, happy, trusting place. i think somehow she sensed that, and resented it.

i'm so sorry to read about your mother. i'm thankful, and sorry for, the kinship there.

kd