>>If I start going to the county, it will cause more hostility

CatWhispers I feel so bad for your situation. It sounds like you are really doing the right things even though you keep seemingly knocking against a brick wall.

Something that effects depression that we discuss over and over again in Cognative Therapy groups is the idea of "forecasting" and "predictions" which can be unhealthy ways to think. In many cases they can lead to self-fulfilling prophesies as well.

That thought struck me in the line I quoted above... you are "predicting" that if you go to the county it will "create hostility". You may believe that from past experience, but it is still a prediction that you can't know to be true.

I am hoping we may come up with other ideas for other avenues to pursue that may help you past this situation, but in the meantime, don't let your mind shoot down the ideas that you can try now even if you think they will be fruitless. Don't think of them as fruitless, think of them as another chance for "them" to get things right finally!

I'm hoping the best for you and keep posting here for as much support and ideas as you need.