Dear folks,

There may be many on PC whose issues go back to preverbal days (I am one of them)

I was reading last night about the importance of eye contact between the infant and his/her "primary caregiver" - how long, intense mutual gazes are rather unique to that relationship stage and are very important for establishing safety/security/bonding

the author observed that between adults, eye contact is either broken off after a second or a few seconds, or is longer when one is angry or presenting a threat.

the question - apart from ccasions of anger, have any of you purposely tried to hold prolonged eye contact with T(and especilaly, more than once)? If so would you be willing to share your experience(s)? I am wondering whether I might find some healing in it.