Hello, Purplechick! Sundog and Madisgram have offered you wonderful responses. You don't need mine. But, being in the mood to post, here it is:

On the one hand, my father passed over two decades ago, and I still mark the anniversary with a simple ritual.

On the other hand, it appears the intensity of your emotions are significantly greater than mine (which are dulled by my depression and medications).

Grief is a deeply personal experience. I would never judge the duration or nature of your grief. What is important is how the grief affects you. If it makes you uncomfortable or interferes with your daily life, then that is something to "work on", perhaps guided by a sympathetic therapist -- if available.

May all your tears be healing tears.