((Belle)) - I'm going to be very honest with you because you deserve it. I'm going to try to see this from both sides. If I only sympathize with your pain, this will only prolong your discomfort. Since you're in the middle of this unfortunate situation, you may not be able to see this objectively. It's not always easy to go immediately into 'friendship mode' after being intimately involved - not everyone can do this and certainly not right away. You're still hurting and you feel mad - that shows in the email you sent him.

I think it would have been better to wait on the friendship rather than sending him several emails. I agree it's fine to send one email and really vent how you feel but, then leave it at that. You may even find you can't be friends and that's okay, after all you don't have a long history together or kids together lol where a civil friendship is necessary. Truly I can understand why he was upset in his email to you but he was harsh - you were hard on him too I think.

I know it's irritating the way he seems to be moving on easier and even bouncing back on the dating scene. He's free to do this since he's single again. I understand it's painful but nothing you can do really.

At this time I don't think you're ready to be friends with him. When a romantic relationship ends, there's a long process both people go through before they can be 'friends'. When one person can truly feel peace and happy if the other one finds a partner - this is an indicatiion you can be a friend. When you're no longer mad, hurt and feeling resentful -then you can let friendship in. At this time you're not ready and may not be ready. You also can't force a friendship. What you need right now is distance from him Belle - don't communicate or look him up on Facebook or dating sites. I hope you feel better soon.