Why in the world did you get married to him in the first place?????

Marriage isn't about living a separate life. I agree, it's not about spending all your time with him, but to be quite honest, your marriage doesn't sound like you have much love (& I don't mean just sex) for your husband. It doesn't sound like you respect him either. I know for me, I didn't respect my husband before we got married & 33 years later, I realized there was never any love for him either.

If you truly have a good marriage, neither friends on either side should take priority over your marriage relationship if you really want to have a good marriage. A real good marriage isn't just about coexisting together......I can say that from first hand experience because that was all my marriage was about....from there it goes into being nothing but a business partnership & down hill from there.

To be honest, it sounds like you really need a good marriage counselor....one that can be a good facilitator between you so you can talk through & start to really understand where each other's thoughts are coming from. Too many times we assume the other persons feelings that are causing them to act the way they are acting when in reality, it's not what they are thinking at all. Much better to have a neutral party (counselor) to work through all these issues you have talked about here.

Hoping you can work through this......for it's NORMAL for a husband to want to be included in your life....it's also NORMAL for a wife to want to be included in her husband's life.....sounds like there is a lot missing in your marriage.....opinion based on personal experience & personal mistake of really should have NOT gotten married to the person I married, but spend 33 years tolerating each other from a distance.....definitely NOT a FULFILLING marriage