i can think of a couple times of this happening (although i am in general horrible at giving eye contact with T's), with an old (but one of my favorite) T's, and it was the couple of times that were almost the most intense moments.... in a good way. i felt seen. visible. i felt like she knew. and understood. it was hard to push myself to do it in some ways, but so worthwhile that it outweighed my fear of being vulnerable in the long run.