MMF--I wasn't meaning to imply that your friend consciously had an ulterior motive, but her actions were at least a little selfish. The intimacy you shared obviously met a need for her too. I merely meant to suggest that you might want to think about exactly how you define friendship--what do you *expect* from a friend? What would you consider "crossing the line" in a friendship? How do you want to handle that if or when it might occur? These ideas do not just apply to friendships with members of the opposite sex.