Eileen, I'm sorry it was such a difficult experience for you. I don't see anyone here saying "you can do this, keep going" etc, as you thought they would. I think everyone is saying to listen to yourself. I think that part of healing is trusting yourself to know what you can bear, and not being punitive (as your last post sounds) by pushing yourself past that.

If you want to get more stable, or focus on feeling a sense of coping or accomplishment in your everyday life, then why not use you therapy to focus on that for now? Those are worthwhile goals too and DBT won't even consider trauma work until you're stable and have the skills to truly cope. And in the meantime you're building a strong therapeutic relationship which will stand you in great stead if you decide to do the trauma work at a later point, rather than just jumping head first into hell with only a stranger as a guide.

Just some thoughts. I hope today got better for you...