Hi, GL,

Here's just my perspective, for anything that's worth:

Yes, you can help it.

OK, that's my 'slap to the face to get your attention' opener. Here's the rest:

BEHAVIOR is something you really and truly can do something about. It may be difficult to do something about it. It may not be pleasant to do something about it. It may not be what you want to do, for any number of reasons. But that is not the same thing as being unable to do anything about it.

My guess is that, if you keep that in mind when you read and post, a number of those posts that you find hurtful will taper off. I think that a lot of people get a little feisty when they read what looks to them as someone saying that they just plain won't do anything about their behavior. But that's only a guess on my part.

As for the rest of it, I agree with GG -- Dialectical Behavior Therapy would be worth looking into for you.

Also, I hate to admit it, GL, but everything else that I think would help you, I"ve written to you before. I do not like to see you in pain, and I hope very much that you find some relief for this, but I don't know why you'd 'hear' what I had to say this time, when you haven't before.

Good luck.