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Originally Posted by katmeow
I hAVE BEEN WIRH MY BOYFRIEND FOR TWO YEARS. I JUST RECENTLY FOUND OUT HE HAS CHEATED ON ME. MY LAST RELATIONSHIP ENDED IN DIVORCE FOR THE SAME THING. MY CURRENT AND PAST MEN HAVE TOLD ME THAT IM NOT AGGRESSIVE ENOUGH IN BED..THAT BASICALLY IM BORING. WHEN I WAS SINGLE I WAS OUT OF CONTROL WITH THE MEN I DATED I WOULD DO ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING. BUT AS SOON AS I FEEL COMFORTABLE WITH A MAN ..I GET UNCOMFORTABLE AND SHY..I SEE THE PATTERN AND JUST DONT KNOW HOW TO BREAK IT. WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME?? I LOVE THIS MAN AND I WANT TO MAKE THE RELATIONSHIP WORK.  |
Welcome katmeow
You are not at fault... and please don't doubt yourself.
If there are sexual issues he should have spoken to you about them.. let you know what he likes and you need to express your feelings to him also.
Talking about sex may behard if you are feeling shy about it
Couples counselling an option? If you really want this relationship to work...Both of you need to WANT the relationship.
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