I think for guys, they see us depresed and they want to comfort. Comfort is touching and hugging, hugging is giving for them which quickly becomes what is for them soemthing that is the most affirming act btween lovong people, sex. No offense to the men I know, but my guy firends have often been kind of like this. They don't have to love to have sex, but if they love, they almost have to have sex to affirm it. Depression screws that whole emotional language up for them in a big way. If I am wrong, come on guys! help me out here!!!!! HUGGS alll!