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Originally Posted by Elana05
As an example:
I recently found a volunteer position online that sounded interesting.
But an hour later I realized in the back of my mind I was methodically forming out how I was going to tell my dad about it and how important this would be to him...I don't own it anymore.
Just wondering if anyone could relate to this issue of "losing yourself" in a hurtful way.
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Hi Elana, I can totally relate to losing myself in this way. It's not the same players or situations, but it's something I return to in therapy.
I was glad to read your post. What stood out in the above box is that you were going to tell your Dad about it. Is it an option to not tell your dad? That is certainly one way to own it. Perhaps it will grow strong in you so that when you do disclose things, you do own it completely.
To be honest, when I lose myself, I nap. Like an infant, I retreat. My partner gives me good support & space for this, I'm very lucky. But God, I wear myself out getting to that place where I know I've lost myself. I think, and I suspect you have done this in some areas, that this is a step forward, step back solution. Where you try out a new tactic to see if that works (as far as doing things outside the home). I wish you well and hope to hear more.
Stephen