Thanks Perna.

I really wish people would read my entire post and see that her parents have expressed the same wishes to me and that they view me as someone who can be "trusted" more with her than others. They don't think she will do anything in front of them because they are the parents. I'm not getting into their "family unit". And pardon me, but I'm in their family unit. I basically raised my niece while my sister was getting her degree because she had her when she was 18. I have been more involved in that child's life than a lot of people and am in the will to be her legal guardian if anything happens to her parents. So I would really appreciate if people would stop making me out to be some "intruder" on her life.

Perna....I know she is sortof in a different generation than me. She is only 7 years younger than me so we are not too far apart. She also goes to a very small school. My school had over 3,000 kids so I know I was exposed to a lot more there. She has been talking more about college and whenever she decides where that could be a good indicating factor. She says something like Ohio State which is a massive party school and kind of a crappy area....then yeah I think she's in over her head when it comes to things like partying.

My cousin was that type of kid too. Never had a drink in high school or smoked a cigarette or anything. He went off to Ohio State, friended me on Facebook, and now (he's still only 19) every single post almost is about drinking, blacking out the night before, smoking pot etc..... You see why maybe I would like her to get some of this out of her system first? I'm trying to be realistic and possibly face those issues before she goes off and doesn't have an immediate support system there with her.