Ok - I knew my wife was depressed but labored under the fact that she needed to get over it - figured it was something we can deal with because "everybody gets depressed sometimes". Problem is it was much worse than she let on and I had gotten so used to her that I failed to see what was really going on.
Long story short - she apparently was going to commit suicide Monday night - ended up getting involuntarily commited on tuesday and has been in the hospital since. I can see her 1 hr a day and have yet to hear from any doctors about what is going on.
When I go talk to her i get a lot of "double speak" - I can explain more about this, and I worry about what to say. I try to be supportive, but at the same time I am MAD (at everyone and no one, her, me, kids, pets, God, pastor, etc... no particular reason, just Angry). With the double speak I get things from her such as:
She has to much to do and you never help - then later she says I am too controlling and need to leave her alone to do things or that.
She told me the dr changed her to voluntary, then I asked if she wanted to go home and she restated that she could not but the dr said he may change her to voluntary - etc..
She told me she was arguing because they switched her doctor, and then later said they hadnt.

i know (per her) that they changed her meds (she was on lexapril>?) but could not tell me what the new med was.

Last night she said that I need to create a list of houswork chores for her to follow - she was adamant - but I know I will end up on the wrong end - if I do it (I am too controlling) and if I dont (I dont care about her).

She keeps talkign about having NO CONTROL and wanting to FLY - I kind of understand the no control, but she has a distorted perception as to how much "control" any of us have. (she says I am lucky because I get away all day and have complete control, at work -right). I dont understand this FLY thing - does anyone here have any insight.

What I am supposed to do - I am really worried because it seems the only role the hospital is going for is to get her gone, they dont involve me and I am concerned because of some comments I have heard - specifically, she was very upset about her transport to the hospital (2hrs away) - they cuffed her, searched her, and such and she said "I will make sure they dont get the chance to dothis to me next time" - Seems like she is just sitting there trying to get out so she can finish ...

Any help?