OK. So, it's all settled. I talked with little man's parents (my brother and his g/f) and told them that I need the two days per week to be scheduled days that I, he, everyone can plan on. Of course, if things aren't cool, to bring him home that not. He's been very honest so far.

Anyhow, I explained to him that way the mother would know when little man is going to be there and it will be their reponsibility to deal with. It's done!

There is no strings attaching me to her that she can yank. I didn't realize how trapped I was feeling knowing that I HAD to have contact to take care of myself...further, taking care of myself was basically in her hands. She still had control. I was still trapped.

This is a good day.

Thank you everyone for your support!

KD