I am sorry you are struggling so DPS... i c from the thought given in other messages... did not get to where your question lies. We r so much alike.. we have DID but each person system can be.. is.... so different. I wish i could help you with the answer you seek. I know for me... grounding need to take place with all my parts with wherever there memories go. We r coconcious and for us we don't lose time as we use to... parts still can fly out at a trigger... but it is less and less of an occurance. I believe every part needs to learn grounding... every part needs to see the present and memory as the past. it is a rough road dps... u seem to be strugglig so and i wish we could be of more help.