Hi

I have the same problem sometimes. Like I will let my actions be ruled by other's wishes. I do have a big heart and want to help when I can but seem to get kicked in the teeth alot too.

My biggest prob is at work. I take so much crap then get to the point of total frustration where I will either lash out in a rage or go out to my car and cry in frustration.

I think I will have to read those links and see if that doesn't help. Silly thing is, I am a really strong and independant woman - was not raised to be a malleable female so it makes no sense.

Good luck to all of us to find our strength.