there is a lot i could probably get into about this whole issue, but for now i'm going to just try and summarize i guess. so, here's the thing: has anyone ever been in a relationship with someone who had the same or similar issues as you? if so, have you found it difficult and/or triggering at times?

i completely realize that could come across as selfish, and this sentence maybe even more so: when i think about the future, i have to wonder if although i love my partner so much, that because we are so similar, that it wouldn't be healthier for me to (well, i do want to experience being single for once in my life at some point, if we ever did break up) but to be with someone who was maybe, mental health wise, healthier than me? as i said, i know that may sound selfish. but i've gone through a period in our relationship before where i felt like this and then distanced myself, and i'm going into one again, i can feel it. my partner & i have been together for almost 3 years now (and were best friends for a long time before that), but i do worry about the future. at the same time, i love her very much and don't want to hurt her.

so any advice/insight/personal experience about this matter would be greatly appreciated.

second part: i'm not at a place to make a huge decision either way, and i'm not prepared to anyway. i want to try and make us work right here, right now at least. so when she gets off work tonight, she has the next two days off. does anyone have any ideas of something i could suggest doing together tonight that might help us connect? perhaps not TOO serious (you know, delving into a deep conversation) - but something just fun and relaxing and if we end up opening up a little more than we have been lately, great? i was thinking like maybe cooking dinner or something together, i don't know.

thanks again....